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Let's go back to discuss why you pretend you don't know much Bahasa...
During all the above phases...there will no doubt be occasions when she will speak a word or two or Bahasa...especially to the sales people as you ask her to seek information for you…ask her what it means...and here is where your acting must be solid....
Once she has explained the word to you...try to use it once in a while...ask her if you are pronouncing it and using it correctly...then pick up another word...and keep this game going...
She will be very impressed that you can learn things so quickly...do not overdo it though...you want to look smart, but don't be a fucking genius...she will become suspicious if you can suddenly speak in sentences after only one hour...go for one word or two words at a time...use it wrong once in a while and laugh about it with her....
Get her to laugh often...touch her when she laughs...either her hand or her shoulder or her back (avoid her head and other sensitive areas, obviously)...as you touch her more...linger slightly longer each time...every once in a while, touch her and keep your hand there for 30 seconds to a minute or until she moves away...don't touch her for a minutes after that, then try again...a few quick touches followed by one lingering one...
Two main indicators you want to see here....
1) she is comfortable for you to 'hold' her...almost no shifting away from your touch...
2) she is touching you back...on your hands or arms...(if she slaps you lightly...she likes you more than you think...
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Conduct this exercise anytime before phase seven, but be sure to do this before entering phase nine…
If you see the above indications... find an opportunity to reapply phase eight....compliment her on another thing...as before, compliment, pause for a few seconds for her to thank you or ignore you, talk about something else...alternate your compliment between something physical about her and something she chose….’lovely smile’...’great handbag’…beautiful eyes’…’nice lipstick colour’…’gorgeous legs’…’unique earrings’…and so on…
But please bros…space these compliments out…if you continuously flatter her, she will know something is up…talk for 5-10 minutes, spring one compliment…then talk for another 5-10 minutes before unleashing another one…and so on…
If when during one of these compliments, she smiles at you with a blush or looks into your eyes...you are ready to move into phase nine...
Phase nine - take her out of a sitting environment...go for a walk...
As before, keep chatting away...this time point out things you see...prices, styles and state the differences between what you see and 'where you are from'...please bros, do not forget your earlier cover story...hahahahaha, if you suddenly change country on her, she may still fuck you if you are smoking hot; otherwise, you are basically screwed (or not getting screwed, actually) and have wasted all this time setting it up...
As you two walk around, occasionally place your hand on her back when you can guide her...into lifts, onto escalators, through squeezy entrances etc...don't linger...hand on her back, guide the movement, then take your hand away. It is almost like a dance and she will feel as such too if you can find enough occasions to do this.
Having done this half a dozen times...try to leave your hand there longer...if she steps forward to break contact, she is not ready for phase ten...keep trying with the quick release method again to warm her back up...
Once you get indication that she is comfortable to let you keep touching her back for longer periods...time to test water...
Reach for her hand again...this time, hold it for a short time...the best excuse to do this is to 'pull' her to one side to show her something...' hey, check this out', grab her hand, lead her towards the thing to see, and then release her hand after a few seconds...remember to be gentle…don’t jerk her towards you…
Best to try this out a few times over shorter distances...like maybe up to 3-4 steps away...don't give her enough time to pull her hand away...
If she doesn't start to pull her hand away, try once with up to 10 steps...as before, slight struggle, keep holding...etc yada yada yada...
I have found that by this time, they will usually let me hold their hands for good 10-20 steps...remember that people are all very polite / shy in Indonesia and being in a public place...even if she wants you to hold her hand, she may have to pretend she doesn't want you to...so you will likely experience light struggles…
You are not trying to keep a hold of her hand...you are merely trying to see how much of a struggle she will put up...slight is normal in public, severe struggle means maybe she is still not sure about you yet...go back to the warm up exercise as above…
Any time something a little awkward happens, like if she really pulls her hand away as if she is upset...quickly suggest something else to do...oh, nice shoes, you want to try them on?...That scarf will look great on you, let’s try it on…Let’s get a drink, or yogurt or coffee...give her time regain her composure...
Then back to warm up exercise as briefed….
...until she is ready...
(to be continued)